Why do women have to follow the tradition of abandoning their name after marriage? by Best author and life coach in noida
Best author and life coach in noida
Girls are taught from childhood that their names would chang
Girls are taught from childhood that their names would change after marriage.
Why is it necessary to change her identity?
When we talk about a married woman, apart from being someone’s wife, or daughter-in-law, she has her own identity. She is individual apart from her roles. Her name is her identity or a part of her which should not be changed. She has been given a name which she feels glad to hear, which has been an important part of her identity, and she does not want to lose. Best author and life coach in noida
Despite growing feminism and gender equality, women face the overwhelming name change issue. According to the current research analysis, 15% of the women in India have to change their name after marriage because of socialistic pressure, cultural norms and traditions.
Culturally, adopting a new name after marriage was a sign of societal acceptance, women once belonged to their fathers and after marriage, they have to follow the traditions set by a new family. And till now in some areas of India, it is mandatory to change their name to be accepted. Best author and life coach in noida.
Women connect their identity with names:-
I remembered an incident in the small town of Haryana. The whole pavilion was decorated. All were waiting for the bride to come into the pavilion. The faces of friends and relatives of the groom were glowing with joy. The bride entered, and she sat by the side of the groom. But the glowing face of the bride got faded away and she became disappointed when the words of the priest about changing her name fell into her ears. Her heart skipped a beat. She was already sorrowful about leaving her home and it was uneasy for her to adapt to the new environment. And this new tradition of changing her identity, her name displeased her. She is feeling like someone is taking out her whole world from her. She was looking up at her parents with watery eyes so that they stop it and she could escape from this. I was feeling heavy inside to see her discontented.
We all associate our identity with the names given by our parents. we don’t want to lose our identity. We feel proud and gratified when someone calls us by our name. We feel some connection with our names. Best author and life coach in noida
But in several parts of the world, the desire not to change their names adds fuel to their life. They are judged. We should understand that women are great contributors to society.
Today things are evolving in an unbiased way. In educational systems, now single mothers are given priority. I am not saying that changing a name is wrong, but yes, a change of name is solely a women’s decision and not of men’s. Best author and life coach in noida
I think we will agree with that if a woman is ok with changing her name, then their choice should be respected. But if she is not ready to adopt a new identity, she should not be compelled or judged by the parameters set by society.
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